Skills, Structures and Habits

One of the trending ideals in this extreme liberal ideology era is to “find yourself.” While I’m not going to discredit being unique, there is a study that it’s rarely because you’re born as one.

It’s not bad at all to make yourself to be one, that is of course one of the highest aspirations worth pursuing. The greatest threat to that goal is to consider yourself one while half-baked. Just because all baked breads are golden on top and you’re not doesn’t require acknowledgement. Do not flaunt a point wherein everybody passed to but never stopped to bask in.

Stagnation in this life is a weakness.

A great heartbreak in this age of technology is not not knowing how, but being mediocre on skills you’re interested on that some have mastered. Being highly skilled becomes a puzzle in which when people couldn’t figure out how, they excuse it as talent for birth to adulthood. While talent does boost interest, it is practice that makes the expert.

If you’re wondering why you’re not up there, maybe you’re stayed too long in being just good. Comfort after all is the greatest enemy of mastery and the highway to comfort is removing structure and taking pleasure everything you desire as possible.

The excuse of “This is me” is the common mistake against growth and expertise. No one likes to hear that excuse in any context. If you want it, you will strive for it. If you see it as important, you will integrate it into you’re life.

This is why habits are key and necessary. It’s easy to indulge yourself, it’s our instinct to do so. Waking up and opening Facebook or Instagram is being done by millions of individuals with a smartphone. What’s not natural is to go against your urges and fulfill goals first.

What Goals?

Well there should be small and big ones. Small ones entail improving discipline with tasks that could be done in a few minutes such as fixing the bed, drinking vitamins and being thankful. And big ones are most probably composed of stepping stones for your dreams or skills that could stretch for months and even years. While the big ones are what’s going to determine your future, the small ones are what’s going to make you achieve it. Never discredit one over the other.

The habitual goals can be something you enjoy but must always benefit you with repeated performance. Eating ice cream for dinner every week is a bad example for one. Studying experts and asking mentors is one of the best ways to go about it, remember it’s not what the champion does in the ring that makes him win, it’s the things he did before entering that determines it. Appreciate the process more than the result.