What’s your Priority?

“I will restart my  podcast today.” is what I told myself 5 days ago. I still haven’t published one even up to this day.

It’s never about what you wanted, but how much you wanted it. It’s never enough to have a dream, an idea or a goal. It’s a matter of your discipline and progress on how you’re achieving it, and getting closer into accomplishing your vision.

He who has a why to live can bear almost any how. -Friedrich Nietzsch

A lot of people have ideas, great ideas, ideas that made people into billionaires and successful individuals to the general public. A lot of those ideas have also crossed the mind of different people, the notion of “I thought of that too.” is not an uncommon claim, what’s uncommon is the hard work, courage and focus placed into a concept that makes it work and unique.

I’ve promised myself a lot of things this year: A running podcast, a weekly 360 words blog and a 6 digit savings in my bank. It’s almost half of the year and I haven’t achieved or handled a good habit matching those three. Do they sound good? Yes. Do I want them? Yes. Do I enjoy the process of achieving them? Maybe. But most of the time, as much as I say they are my priority, my time goes elsewhere. After work, I take time to play a video game first and using my leftover minutes to improve my progress on them, is leftover time enough? Absolutely not.

Did I ever think gaming is my priority? Nope. But do my action say otherwise? Yes.

Follow your breadcrumbs, words are not enough, intention is not enough. What’s most important is your action and how you advance. If you can’t manage a ten, give yourself a one and a pat on the shoulder. Something is better than nothing. I don’t intend to stay this unproductive but without pro-active effort, I’d be burried this way. Ask yourself how much you want it, if it’s not enough to sacrifice your pleasures, don’t lie to yourself. They are not your priority.

 

Unfollow Instagram Non-followers: The First Aplication

Oh hey! I’m going back into app development from managing people so I thought I’d try out and exercise my mind muscles starting with the most popular and strongest marketing social media to date which is Instagram.

Instagram has been growing exponentially and has served to become one of the strongest marketing tool at this age especially for b2c form of sale. So I did what any interested individual would do and studied regarding tools around it, and by tools I mean API and development.

Currently there are two fruits of my labor which one of is being able to like posts consistently ranging from hashtags to followers, if you’re interested for me to automate your account plus do the targeting to increase your followers, send me an email! On the other hand, here’s a public tool for you:

It’s nothing fancy, or nothing ground breaking, especially in terms of design but it does the job. I’m calling it ByeG for now as a play for the term “IG”, you’re very welcome to send comments and suggestions for it! (The Britney Spears GIF is nonnegotiable.)

This app would ask you to place your username and password and generate a list wherein you would get to see your followings that doesn’t follow you back. Please be sure to click the button and not just press enter, also be patient and give it time to browse through your list, the more followings you have the more time it will take, it should display results when the bouncing ball gif goes missing, if it doesn’t ping me.  Don’t worry, I don’t store your passwords, all privacy and results stay in with you, I only keep data on who used it and when it was used.

If you have too many on the list, I also offer a premium service of unfollowing all plus a whitelist wherein you can list who you don’t want to unfollow based on your choosing,

If you’re also interested in me making a tool for you, ping me up. Let’s get this ball rolling!

Motivation: It’s not what you think it is

Just like the misunderstood “inspiration” and “passion”, motivation has been an overused excuse as part of the waiting game before productivity.

But here’s the thing: It doesn’t come by out of the blue. It’s not an asteroid that’s just going to hit you and you’re going to suddenly become bursting with energy. Motivation is something you work with, it’s a momentum and you need to fight the inertia first to find it.

This post was inspired by the book “The Motivation Myth” by Jeff Haden

We all think motivation is what gets us from 0 to 1, but it’s not. Depending on your environment you’re looking to be productive at, the results will differ: If you’re looking to work on a conference full of people with same interest as you, that’s definitely fodder for your inspiration, passion and motivation. You can work then and there as a huge ignition for whatever you desire and set on a momentum forward but let’s face it, rarely is there a time where you work in a conference because you’re definitely there to listen or network rather than to make something. On the other hand, if you’re in a spot that your body is familiar to be slouching off, you will never get that boost. Your comfort zone will keep dragging you backwards to the good things in life like Facebook, Instagram and Youtube.

So where do you get it?

From progress. Progress that let’s you reach milestones, milestones that gives you a sense of achievement, and achievement that makes you feel great. Motivation is a wheel, and you need to roll it first before anything happens, but when you do, it gets moving for a while. It’s not an infinite source, or a wildfire, it’s an empty battery you charge, use and charge once again.

So, how do I become motivated?

Do.

Everything is a hindrance in this world from making you want to do what matters to you: the wifi, the refrigerator, your phone, your imagination, your worries, your dog, you right hand and etc. What separates you from being able to achieve what you want is to go full “fuck it” and do it. Use the 5 second rule by Mel Robbins and count backwards from 5 and as soon as you reach 1, just do what you sought out to do. Don’t think about the consequences anymore, the effort or the time, if it’s something you came this far to perform it must be something worth doing and by worth doing I mean if you don’t do it you’re going to be left with a big “What if”

Don’t live a life of “What ifs”, live a lot of “Why didn’t I”, learn and lessen your “Whys” instead.

Life will not serve you matters on a platter, rarely does it happen. If you’re reading this, it must be because you’re not one of those picked by chances. Less passivity and more activity, less begging more grabbing opportunities. Your life is yours, don’t let trendy words and sweet notions make you perform any less. Hard work, discipline and grit has always been present in the stories successful people. Your goals, dreams and focus is yours not life’s. If you’re going to own it, you better do something about it. Great people don’t wait for opportunities, they make it.

So, when was the last time you were motivated?

 

Empathy is a Skill not a Talent

I was once talking with a friend about a conflict, for awhile, he was very empathic and at the same time inquisitive. After discussing much and entering into delicate matters he touched on a subject I was not very comfortable on and asked why he seemed very interested. After clarifying his stance, he sensed an underlying tone about the question and proceeded to apologize.

I don’t want this to turn into a misunderstanding between us. I overstepped and I’m sorry.

That was the exact phrase that melted my guard. No matter how much fumes I was exhuming, there was no way to go on the offense with someone that can bow down to an argument that well. I stepped back, reviewed the whole thing and understood his motives, it was clearer he was not against me but for me.

People with empathy are worth keeping

Because they know what to do when they have wronged you in whichever part of the process it may be. It helps you both grow as they admit fault, you see yours as well and you learn from it even in silence or space. Saying sorry is a skill that doesn’t lower your stance, value, honor or dignity but something that conveys the message that this relationship holds more value than my individuality. Of course, this has done be done in a transparent execution rather than offensive or defensive. It does wonders and rather than arguing why I’m right or why you’re wrong, it brings more amicable resolution between both parties because there’s a clear line between personal attack and personal improvement.

Proud people will put the blame on you

No matter if their actions were the cause of the problem, they would see your confrontation as the cause, and the conflict as the effect. When their happiness is far more important than your relationship, you know which category to place them on. Happiness should be shared in the context of a relationship, not kept for one. When someone chases for happiness on the expense of others, it is the formula for a lot of problems. You will spiral down to a loss of yourself in a life full of conflict.

So, pay attention of what has been done if it is a response or a decision. If it is caused by human intention for themselves, it is a decision, if you were affected by the action it is a response. Response are worth discussing because there’s a trigger than can be either improved or avoided. Working towards a common goal has always been one of the greatest achievement factor of humanity. It can be done when people agree on striving for the same goal.

People that sees change as an offensive process are left behind in maturity. While there can be charming attributes that goes with the lack of it, there are worse for ones when you find it necessary. You can choose to stay and guide them, some will bloom with gratitude, some wouldn’t. It’s your risk, sometimes the soil they have to grow on is not on your life, if so set them free. Easier said than done but they have to grow.

Empathy is not something that’s bestowed by birth, or found in genes. It is a skill that can be learned, you only have to see the world through the eyes of the other person. It’s not always easy but it’s always achievable to those who seek out to be one. Rely less on emotions, assess the argument with a sound mind and understand what the other person is going through. If it is irrational, just calm them down based on their fears. If it is with a point, affirm, apologize and proceed to discuss with pursuing resolution to solve it.

To empathize is not just to understand the effect but to find out the cause and provide a solution. It’s to find the root and make things right.

Like every skill, it’s not a supernatural blessing that you have to wait to be bestowed. It gets better with practice and preparation. The best execution is when you’re prepared for the inevitable and confrontations in life will always happen. Make the right mindset, choose to be humble.

Grow and be better each passing day.