Letters to Maico: A series.

I was watching Youtube videos randomly and came across this phrase saying “thinking about stuff is not doing stuff.” and it hit me, that of all the things I could’ve done in this pandemic, this 3 months, I haven’t done a single thing — or to phrase it better, a thing that I can be proud of. Admittedly, to start something new in this draining, anxiety filled pandemic season is a huge demotivation by itself, but I think I owe it to the people I encourage, to be an example of what I want them to become and to do.

Regarding the title, I’m in a relationship with someone named “Maico” who happens to be in a hospital right now, confined, fighting a severe case of COVID-19. The bill has been Php235,000.00 last August 5 with him being confined for just 5 days then, and things haven’t been in the healing stage still. I’m worried and at the same time I cling on to hope.

It’s gonna be our 2 year anniversary this August 28.

I’m writing this series as letters to my partner whose potential to become great is so vivid in my eyes and yet he fails to recognize it. He may not be fearful, but he’s very much drawn to comfortable choices as well as logical excuses to take risks.

He saw himself as a good employee, a pacifist and a small candle in the dark world. I see him as the sun, a warm message and presence to multitudes eclipsed by insecurities, the past and fear of trying something new.

If that description sounds familiar and a little bit personal, I’m not surprised. A lot of people look at the mirror and feel the reflection of failure and/or being ordinary — misunderstanding the thin line between survival and contentment. Who wakes up with no actions to move upon goals and dreams but rather to autopilot and get through the day, being distracted on what really matters: Your Future.

I’m not saying that after reading, you’re going to get a roadmap clear as day infront of you, afterall each journey is personal and different. The road will never be lit to the end, it will always have cross roads and a lot of obstacles looming around sooner or later. My goal as I write this for my most treasured person in the world is not for you to reach perfection or the fullest potential but in the numerous message and lessons I write, I hope that one of those in the tens if not hundreds, inspires you to take another step beyond the fear, insecurity and uncertainty to something you have always wanted to become.

Messengers with a Mission

Imagine, you went to the clinic with your friend who got a diagnosis of a lethal disease but a curable one. Thing is, the doctor confided in you because he sees your maturity in handling the matter and the level of trust you are endowed. The doctor informs you of the medicine, the dosage and the frequency and sees you off, entrusting to you the future of someone who trusts you to know what’s the best for them.

You think, “Eh, it’s too early to tell them yet, the symptoms aren’t that bad yet, maybe it will get better.”

You delay it a little bit longer and see their appearance get worse but they’re still able perform their daily routine.

You think “Oh it’s getting better because the pain isn’t as bad anymore as they say.” You never assumed the idea that maybe they got immune to the pain.

Weeks after, you go back to the doctor. He asks you “Have you told them?” to which you reply “Not yet, the pain seemed to have subsided. I thought they might be recovering.” To which the doctor responded “Because of all this, the disease has spread and the chances are now slim to treat.”

The doctor proceeds to tell your friend their status and their options. They take their chance for the treatment and it fails.

Most critical matters are more than what the eyes can see.

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Is it the doctor’s fault that the message wasn’t delivered to the patient? Probably.

Is it your job to evaluate things if it’s better or worse? Probably you can, but not as much as the doctor’s.

Is it your responsibility to have told your friend the option to make them better? Absolutely.

Are you blameless when all things fall down because the doctor should have told them in the first place directly? No.

You know the people you are with, better. Contextually and emphatically, you can deliver the message best with urgency. If you feel you could not bear to take responsibility as a messenger, don’t pretend to be one. Pass the message to someone who can for we are all messengers with a mission everyday.

We are all gatekeepers of information, secrets and knowledge that can destroy or build someone up. Messages that come our way either in the spirit of fulfillment, trust or by chance happen for a reason. There is rarely a point worth discussing that has no power to change a person for the better or worse. But know this, a painful message is not exclusively meant to destroy a person, it can be to align their attitude to the greater good, and in the same way, a pacifist approach will not always be for the greater good, on other cases, it is only to feign the innocence of the messenger.

Playing stupid or ignorant is not at all an act of goodwill. You are robbing people of their ability to reap a better future. To hold information especially when the delivery is necessary, is to be selfish. If we are to receive a message, truth and/or a knowledge, it is our responsibility to be able to communicate it to the right recipient in truth and love.

Too much truth will communicate severity and too much love will send matters unsettled.

Similar to a pipe, we need to channel these knowledge to the required destination as processed with our filters. If the pipe chooses to clog and fail to serve its purpose, don’t be too surprised when matters bursts out of control.

I hope and pray that before things get too late, that you’re able to fulfill your mission, messenger. But if it gets too late, that you do not feign innocence, because when the time comes to bury the dead, you were actually one of the people digging their grave.

Creating Good Content

Content is everywhere, and most probably, majority part of your day, you’re consuming it.

I’ve made it a goal ever since to create good content — and by good content I meant not just telling about my days or epiphanies but something that I will be proud of to go back and encouraged even just 1 person to be better. Though lately, I couldn’t bring myself to make a good one, I wondered: why?

August was an extremely weird month for me because it’s a month where I broke my habits for the worse. I stopped reading, taking cold showers and indulged on mindless entertainment. It felt good, but it felt surviving with just the face above water.

Getting back to Audible and holding a book feels like waking up from a good dream, a dream but an escape. I shifted back into a world where who I am matters, and what I am determines who I will be. That’s when I realized, I was going nowhere on the rate on what I was doing. I got back into reading books, books that interested me rather than just for the sake of finishing, and lo and behold, I got an idea what to write.

I guess this post is just to remind all of us: What we put it in is what we get out. If you find yourself stuck in a rut, maybe you’re consuming waste of people. Comedy might be entertaining once in awhile but if you treat it like a drug it will dumb you down. I’ve been back to reading published and recommended books about marketing, self-help and leadership. Goes to say I once again been energized to go into the world a better man each day.

To create good content, you need to consume good content. In the end, you will always mix all the wisdom you learn with your words and experiences, and that is what will tailor a message to a different audience. That is what will give you a fresh advocacy to work with in each project.

Challenges, Failing at them and Trying Again

I’ve been watching a lot of Improvement Pill, Nathaniel Drew and Matt D’Avella lately and I’ve been learning a lot about discipline, challenges, success and reflecting on my failures.

The way these content creators were able to achieve a 30 day challenge of: Meditation, Journaling and Cold Showers is remarkable. I have never been able to hold that level of momentum which to some extent is embarassing. Life has been so easy to just shrink into the shell called comfort and just mention the mantra “I don’t need it.” I realize though after through a lot of sifting through wisdom that life starts crossing the borders of comfort and fear.

There’s only 4 months remaining till 2019 ends and I plan to achieve the following of which I will do 30 days consecutive:

  • Take Cold Showers to Work
  • Journal Daily on either 8am or 10pm
  • Publish a Blog on Mondays and Wednesdays probably on 8am if not 9
  • Publish a Vlog every Tuesday(???)
  • Meditate for an Hour, Daily on 11pm

Frankly, all of the ones I have listed other than the vlog are something I have miserably failed to maintain and so I rekindle my commitment.

As for the vlog, if you haven’t had been checking out my brother’s channel he’s been doing podcasts and it’s an amazing dream come true. Please do follow his blog and vlog as linked where you would find the content.

Bonus: I’ve been a guest in an episode

I guess I was just inspired by the courage and the enthusiasm to create new things. If some of you never knew, I used to do podcast but it wasn’t a sustainable passion. Maybe someday I’ll come back to it, but right now I have kickstarter funded a gimball, so I’ll try this vlogging craft out for now.

If any of you are interested in doing the challenge with me, do hit me up. I always believe that people that are accountable to each other for progress move further, and more determined.

To a better 2020 version for us all.